If you were out today, between 4:30-5 P. M. (CST)., then you may have then you may have heard two completely different and shocking things one the radio. On one channel, 96.5 "The Buzz" (on the "Lazlo Show, http://965thebuzz.com/) and then on 92.5 Bott Radio (on the Richard Land Show, http://bottradionetwork.com/), they were both talking about the exact same thing, but in completely different ways. They were both talking about "porn"/pornography and marriage, relationships, and outcomes from porn in the household. It would be up to the reader, here, to decide if you want to go and look at the pod cast, of either of these shows, there will be no shilling for either. Yet, there was some content that is striking.
From the online XXXChurch (http://xxxchurch.com/), there was a man who has been to the (two time a year) "Porn Show," and will also be attending this year, on the weekend of February 6 (http://xxxchurch.com/getinvolved/x3events/pornsunday.html). He was a pastor and has been going, with a couple of other pastors, and this year he will be going with the NFL's former quarterbacks John Kitna and Josh McNown, and on the site, Matt Hasselback (from the Seattle Seahawks) has a video clip. Having pastors and ministers going to a "Porn Show," for the last four years has brought a lot of different thoughts and feelings, from a lot of different faiths and Christian denominations. However, there is not any doubt, there is a huge problem with pornography in America. A $4 billion a year industry, it is touted from, "a marriage aid," to "keeping people with deviant/non-normal wants in the house, rather than acting out, in life."
(At the end of this, I feel the only way I can make this article credible, is to give a small sliver of my own story on this topic, as if I do not, I am just some "guy with an opinion.")
Moving on, the "keeping deviants in the basement and marriage aids" arguments is NOT going to be settled here. However, it is important for people to know the facts. Things as, the majority of married couples have sex less than 20 times a year, 58% (depending on the table/set of stats looked at) of marriages end with some kind of a pornography component, and more and more young men are having trouble (with the easy access, even free, in most cases, as more than 70% of men 18-34 have watched/viewed some kind of pornography, in the last WEEK. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pornography#Statistics) actually forming real, loving, and treating women, as they are to be treated. This is leaving a whole generation, without the skills and knowing what is real in the bedroom.
There is a general knowledge of what is thought of, some people know some things, but as a rule, the majority of people (ESPECIALLY men, and young men) think this is just a "good time," is normal stuff, and just part of the mainstream now. However, here are just a handful of statistics and websites (as I am not the one who should research every single thing, sell anyone on what they should/shouldn't believe, but at the same time I do need to give every reader, friends in most cases, but those who are my blog readers across the world, the tools and places to see for themselves. Then they may make their own decision.
Yet, feeling like I am not above reproach on this issue, in any way, as I have seen and viewed porn, just like the majority of society. However, when I was 25 years old (I am 38 now), I decided that I was going to take a whole year off from sex and six months off from dating women, as I had not had the best of luck. The only thing I could see, as a common denominator, in my failings in finding a wife, was the sex involved. I also realized that I had only one "clean/pure relationship," which last for about two years and it was a "true love" situation, and there was no sex involved. Now I am not going to go into why that relationship did not work out, but I will say that is was not either my, or the woman's fault, at that time in our lives (being just 19). Moving on, that one relationship was clean/pure, like I said, there was no porn in my life, and everything I know about that relationship was what every relationship (in my opinion) should be based on. After that year, I began dating again, also I was still looking at porn videos and some magazines, nothing crazy, just the "run of the mill" (as I would describe it) sexual stuff. I continued on dating, but not having sex and yet there was a well defined problem, with the women I was seeing, as I would be refusing sex (sometimes after 5 dates, sometimes after a couple months). This always ended the relationships/dating with the women, and I was either labeled "weird" (as why would a guy not want to have sex with a really nice looking women?), or else I was labeled "gay/homosexual." This is pretty personal for me, but like I said, the only way to be credible is to sometime go out of your comfort zone, and speak up. I ended up being hurt and after a while, the whole time still watching porn, I quit dating altogether. However, I also re-dedicated my life back to a Christian life, taking things in order (like apologizing to friends for some things in the past, then quit lying, then working on my body, mind, and soul, then family issues, and finally I came to the "porn problem." I can honestly say, that with the exception of "chewing tobacco" (which I still have not conquered), my trying to eliminate all porn out of my life was the second hardest thing I have ever done. It took almost eight months, 4 years ago, to get it all gone.) Now, everything is in the trash, no Net porn, and I stay away from the Cinemax shows, late at night, as well. I have to stress, though, how hard this was, and I never planned it to be that hard. This is why I have written the article, given the web sites and stats, plus the story of what I heard on the radio today. I only hope this helps, whoever it is supposed to help, with no judgment in me at all. I just hope that it reaches one person, as this is so pervasive in the mainstream, from the music, television shows, movies, even when you let your kids watch NickToons, or those childrens channels (like Hannah Montana, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Angel, even Harry Potter, watch, as parents, how many times the little girls, dip into the camera, just showing off enough skin, to make a difference. Look at the shows reality and game shows, and see how many women and men are there in tight clothes, or loose clothes leaning into the camera, just for that three to five seconds, in order for the man (who watches and looks for these things) to see that little extra skin, cleavage, whatever. IT IS EVERYWHERE!).
Here are some of the stats and web sites, which you may read and then check yourself. However, I highly recommend and look at this http://www.xxxchurch.com/, as it will be a valuable experience. The rest is also good, so here you go:
This is from the web site (a porn participant, those who have been in movies, web site http://www.thepinkcross.org/, a site which is both for straight, gay, bi-sexual, and transgender porn actors/actresses):
At the 2003 meeting of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, a gathering of the nation’s divorce lawyers, attendees revealed that 58% of their divorces were a result of a spouse looking at excessive amounts of pornography online.
From the online XXXChurch (http://xxxchurch.com/), there was a man who has been to the (two time a year) "Porn Show," and will also be attending this year, on the weekend of February 6 (http://xxxchurch.com/getinvolved/x3events/pornsunday.html). He was a pastor and has been going, with a couple of other pastors, and this year he will be going with the NFL's former quarterbacks John Kitna and Josh McNown, and on the site, Matt Hasselback (from the Seattle Seahawks) has a video clip. Having pastors and ministers going to a "Porn Show," for the last four years has brought a lot of different thoughts and feelings, from a lot of different faiths and Christian denominations. However, there is not any doubt, there is a huge problem with pornography in America. A $4 billion a year industry, it is touted from, "a marriage aid," to "keeping people with deviant/non-normal wants in the house, rather than acting out, in life."
(At the end of this, I feel the only way I can make this article credible, is to give a small sliver of my own story on this topic, as if I do not, I am just some "guy with an opinion.")
Moving on, the "keeping deviants in the basement and marriage aids" arguments is NOT going to be settled here. However, it is important for people to know the facts. Things as, the majority of married couples have sex less than 20 times a year, 58% (depending on the table/set of stats looked at) of marriages end with some kind of a pornography component, and more and more young men are having trouble (with the easy access, even free, in most cases, as more than 70% of men 18-34 have watched/viewed some kind of pornography, in the last WEEK. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pornography#Statistics) actually forming real, loving, and treating women, as they are to be treated. This is leaving a whole generation, without the skills and knowing what is real in the bedroom.
There is a general knowledge of what is thought of, some people know some things, but as a rule, the majority of people (ESPECIALLY men, and young men) think this is just a "good time," is normal stuff, and just part of the mainstream now. However, here are just a handful of statistics and websites (as I am not the one who should research every single thing, sell anyone on what they should/shouldn't believe, but at the same time I do need to give every reader, friends in most cases, but those who are my blog readers across the world, the tools and places to see for themselves. Then they may make their own decision.
Yet, feeling like I am not above reproach on this issue, in any way, as I have seen and viewed porn, just like the majority of society. However, when I was 25 years old (I am 38 now), I decided that I was going to take a whole year off from sex and six months off from dating women, as I had not had the best of luck. The only thing I could see, as a common denominator, in my failings in finding a wife, was the sex involved. I also realized that I had only one "clean/pure relationship," which last for about two years and it was a "true love" situation, and there was no sex involved. Now I am not going to go into why that relationship did not work out, but I will say that is was not either my, or the woman's fault, at that time in our lives (being just 19). Moving on, that one relationship was clean/pure, like I said, there was no porn in my life, and everything I know about that relationship was what every relationship (in my opinion) should be based on. After that year, I began dating again, also I was still looking at porn videos and some magazines, nothing crazy, just the "run of the mill" (as I would describe it) sexual stuff. I continued on dating, but not having sex and yet there was a well defined problem, with the women I was seeing, as I would be refusing sex (sometimes after 5 dates, sometimes after a couple months). This always ended the relationships/dating with the women, and I was either labeled "weird" (as why would a guy not want to have sex with a really nice looking women?), or else I was labeled "gay/homosexual." This is pretty personal for me, but like I said, the only way to be credible is to sometime go out of your comfort zone, and speak up. I ended up being hurt and after a while, the whole time still watching porn, I quit dating altogether. However, I also re-dedicated my life back to a Christian life, taking things in order (like apologizing to friends for some things in the past, then quit lying, then working on my body, mind, and soul, then family issues, and finally I came to the "porn problem." I can honestly say, that with the exception of "chewing tobacco" (which I still have not conquered), my trying to eliminate all porn out of my life was the second hardest thing I have ever done. It took almost eight months, 4 years ago, to get it all gone.) Now, everything is in the trash, no Net porn, and I stay away from the Cinemax shows, late at night, as well. I have to stress, though, how hard this was, and I never planned it to be that hard. This is why I have written the article, given the web sites and stats, plus the story of what I heard on the radio today. I only hope this helps, whoever it is supposed to help, with no judgment in me at all. I just hope that it reaches one person, as this is so pervasive in the mainstream, from the music, television shows, movies, even when you let your kids watch NickToons, or those childrens channels (like Hannah Montana, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Angel, even Harry Potter, watch, as parents, how many times the little girls, dip into the camera, just showing off enough skin, to make a difference. Look at the shows reality and game shows, and see how many women and men are there in tight clothes, or loose clothes leaning into the camera, just for that three to five seconds, in order for the man (who watches and looks for these things) to see that little extra skin, cleavage, whatever. IT IS EVERYWHERE!).
Here are some of the stats and web sites, which you may read and then check yourself. However, I highly recommend and look at this http://www.xxxchurch.com/, as it will be a valuable experience. The rest is also good, so here you go:
This is from the web site (a porn participant, those who have been in movies, web site http://www.thepinkcross.org/, a site which is both for straight, gay, bi-sexual, and transgender porn actors/actresses):
At the 2003 meeting of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, a gathering of the nation’s divorce lawyers, attendees revealed that 58% of their divorces were a result of a spouse looking at excessive amounts of pornography online.
Child pornography is one of the fastest growing businesses online, and the content is becoming much worse.
In 2008, Internet Watch Foundation found 1,536 individual child abuse domains.
Of 1351 pastors surveyed, 54% had viewed Internet pornography within the last year.
There are 4.2 million pornographic web sites, 420 million pornographic web pages, and 68 million daily search engine requests.
Of 1351 pastors surveyed, 54% had viewed Internet pornography within the last year.
There are 4.2 million pornographic web sites, 420 million pornographic web pages, and 68 million daily search engine requests.
From the web site BlazingGrace (http://www.blazinggrace.org/cms/bg/pornstats), which includes statistics from TIME, LA Time Magazine, and then some other religious statistic sites, as well:
* The U.S. Customs Service estimates that there are more than 100,000 web sites offering child pornography (which are illegal) worldwide. Red Herring Magazine, 1/18/02
* Hollywood currently releases 11,000 adult movies per year – more than 20 times the mainstream movie production. LA Times Magazine, 2002.
* 39 million homes receive the adult channels in scrambled form, while the number of children with potential exposure to such images is about 29 millionMorality Continues to Decay. Barna Research Group, November 3, 2003.
* One in 4 American adults surveyed in 2002 admitted to seeing an x-rated movie in the last year. National Opinion Research Letter 55%: Percentage of Porn movie rentals vs. non-porn movies in hotels in 2005. AVN News, State of the Adult Industry
* The average time a porn movie is watched in a hotel room is 12 minutes.Time.com, 3-29-05
* The U.S. Customs Service estimates that there are more than 100,000 web sites offering child pornography (which are illegal) worldwide. Red Herring Magazine, 1/18/02
* Hollywood currently releases 11,000 adult movies per year – more than 20 times the mainstream movie production. LA Times Magazine, 2002.
* 39 million homes receive the adult channels in scrambled form, while the number of children with potential exposure to such images is about 29 millionMorality Continues to Decay. Barna Research Group, November 3, 2003.
* One in 4 American adults surveyed in 2002 admitted to seeing an x-rated movie in the last year. National Opinion Research Letter 55%: Percentage of Porn movie rentals vs. non-porn movies in hotels in 2005. AVN News, State of the Adult Industry
* The average time a porn movie is watched in a hotel room is 12 minutes.Time.com, 3-29-05
Here is also a list of sites, in which you may go to, in order to find out more, as you may have time:
http://xxxchurch.com/, www.womansavers.com/infidelity-statistics.asp (a site which is for marriage, women, and what happens within the marriage bond, do to pornography), www.purehope.net/statisticspornography.asp, http://www.orthodoxwiki.org/Pornography_Addiction, and http://www.wisechoice.net/porn-statistics/
http://xxxchurch.com/, www.womansavers.com/infidelity-statistics.asp (a site which is for marriage, women, and what happens within the marriage bond, do to pornography), www.purehope.net/statisticspornography.asp, http://www.orthodoxwiki.org/Pornography_Addiction, and http://www.wisechoice.net/porn-statistics/
